My old best friend just texted me. i need advice. help?

me and her were best friends for 8 years byt over a year ago i stopped talking to her because pretty much i started to hate her. she's begging me to be friends with her. she was once a horrible friend but she says shes gonna change. i dont wanna revisit my past. i love my friends now and i no that if we become friends again, things will go back to the way they were. what should i do??????? i need to make a decision quick. i still hate her but i am a christian but does that mean i have to be friends with her?My old best friend just texted me. i need advice. help?
i wouldnt be friends w/ her but dont be rude. btw im a christian too and i know that just becuz u r doesnt mean u have to be friends w/ every1 in the world. thats impossible. plus havent u heard the verse in the Bible that says 'love ur neighbor'? hate is a strong word...just saying sryMy old best friend just texted me. i need advice. help?
You cannot be friends with someone you do not like - it doesn't work that way. So no matter if you are a christian or not - it won't work.





Tell your old friend that although you can forgive her for her past digressions that you cannot forget them and you fear that she is the same person she was that hurt you. Since you don't want to get hurt again - you are very sorry but your friendship with her is over!





Be firm - be caring - don't be cruel - just be honest!





You don't hate her - you just can never trust her again.





She may learn from this one and maybe one day in the future she will be that friend that she never was to somebody else!
Just talk to her and tell her you want to start slow. You don't have to become BEST friends again. Just casually text and then when school starts, talk to her in person more. Then, you guys can start hanging out. If you decide you don't want to be friends with her, then it's okay. It's your choice. The Christian thing to do though, would be to put the effort in and give her a second chance.





Best of luck :)
i am not a christian but i think i can answer the question.


how much you miss her.did you had good time with her.does a part of you miss her.if yes i know.you should msg her first then clarify the past because foot stuck in past will not allow you to move forward.


then only talk to her.


for more help i am always there brother.
Forgive and forget, if you live in the past, you'll never be able to work on your future.








Basically try and be her friend again, try and get it to work if you really want to
I'd recommend trying to reconnect a little bit. It takes more effort to hold a grudge against someone then to forgive and forget.





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You don't have to be friends with her because of a lying and manipulative book.





Just stop texting her and talking to her.


I've been down the same road.
say that you forgive her but you're not ready to be friends again. then don't answer her calls/messages
talk to her. if she hasn't changed, don't be friends
Just because you are a Christian doesn't mean that you HAVE to be friends with her. Hate is a strong word and you should try and forgive her for the stuff she has done to you, even if she's never apologized, that's what I think a Christian or any person regardless of religion should do. :)





Now, if you believe things aren't going to change and you don't want to be friends with her then don't. You could always not reply to the texts or just tell her, ';You know, in the past you've hurt me and i don't know if i'm ready to give our friendship another try right now.'; Leave it at that. Or if you've got no harsh feelings to her (although it sounds like you do) add in, ';I don't have any harsh feelings towards you but I don't think I'm ready to give our friendship another go.'; Maybe that is too blunt but I am a very honest person and i like to be straight forward instead of just expecting people to know stuff.





All the best!!!
jes because she tells you all that doesn't mean anythinq. some ppl jes like to do that to mess up all over aqain and try to make thinqs horrible for you and brinq the past back. if she's been that much of ah bad friend... it doesn't mean you have to qive up on her! maybe she miqht be ready and willinq to chanqe now after she realized what she' done to be ah bad friend. i had ah friend like that and still does! we been friends since 2nd qrade but fell out alot. but we always forqive each other. we jes soooo freakinq close we jes don't know. i see her everyday and she treats me soooo much better than she did in the past. :)