Parent in need of Parents advice... help?!?

I have a 15 yr old daughter. She left her journal out open to a page that shocked me. This isn't a privacy issue btw. If i turned the page - that's where i draw the line. What I saw on the page has me concerned. Me , My wife, and both our kids are all Christians... but what she has written was not very Christ like. Her use of foul language really disturbes me. and detailed info on her friends sexual behaviour....stuff that she is wanting to experience now. My daughter is well loved in this house... me and her mom have been married almost 18yrs. yet in her words, she ';has a really sh---y life!'; so... what do i do now? what would be the best way to talk to her about all this?????Parent in need of Parents advice... help?!?
If she is a Christian, and her recent behavior is not ';Christ like'; then you could try this:


';%26lt;name of child%26gt;, I just want you to know, I love you very much. I know your journal is your private business, but you recently left it open to a page and what I saw on that page concerns me. Now I want to ask you to consider something, would you be embarrassed or ashamed to have Jesus read your Journal?'; please, when confronting her... do it in a loving way and emphasize that you are proud of your young lady and that you know that she believes in a loving God who will Forgive if we only ask.Parent in need of Parents advice... help?!?
well the best advice that I can give to you is, sit your daughter down and let her know that if she is having any problems with you or your wife, that she's welcome to come to you guys and talk. At this age, she's just looking for your attention.
Since she left it out in the open, and opened to that page, she probably wants to talk to you but doesn't know how.





Ask if there's anything she wants to talk about. Let her know you're there and that you care. When she wants to talk about it, she will.
you have to be realistic. She's a teenager and teenagers grow up waaay too fast these days. there's really nothing you can do, but help and guide her. Also, 15 is a very confusing time. She just needs to know that you love and care about her and will help her in any way possible
Okay I might not be a christian but ether way Don't say that you saw her journal she will just get angry at you but make sure to ask if there is anything wrong or anything she will want to talk about.
Sounds normal actually.
She obviously left it open to let you know about about her and her life. If she wanted to hide from you she would of kept it hidden in her room. What teen leaves a journal out in the open for a parent to see. Also unless your child was raised in a commune most teens use curse words even the christian ones. All the christian schools I went to the kids all had potty mouths and were just as sexual as the kids at regular schools. If you are going to talk to her don't attack her. I wouldn't even bring up that you read her journal. Just because your Christian does not mean she is. Kids at this time are trying to find themselves and figure out there own morals and beliefs and test the waters. They want to find out if everything you said is really true and take risks. You might to talk to your daughter and ask if she is having any problems she wants to talk about with you. Or if she can't talk about them with you would she like to talk about them with a therapist. There are a lot of teen programs around and you can always find a christian therapist too. But you have to make sure she likes the person she talks to or it will be a waste of money.
There's one thing you have to know about journals and young girls...a lot of things are exaggerations because they don't have to worry about someone saying they are over-reacting. She may think her life is horrible, and it might have nothing to do with her family; usually with teen girls, it comes down to a guy. Since she left it out, it wouldn't be a bad idea to ask her about it. Just go to a neutral place like a park or somewhere that she doesn't feel confined to only say something like ';OK';. Whatever you do, though, don't tell her you saw it. That will only embarrass her, and make her feel that her privacy was violated...especially if she left the room in a hurry and just forgot to put the journal back up.
you have to realise that this is very normal, and not disturbing. i don't think you should say anything. in-fact if you show your christian disapproval and judgemental attitude you will prevent her from coming to you for advice on delicate matters such as sex. she needs to know you wont judge her. its very normal to be interested in things like this at her age. she obviously doesn't use this language in-front of you ( otherwise you would not have been shocked) this shows she respects you views,(which is great, especially a that age!) but you must realise that as she grows up she may not choose to live your way, you should respect her choices in life.


im afraid that if mild swear words like shi##y shock you i think you need to adjust to the modern world a bit or you will have such a huge gap between your and your daughters world she wont be able to talk to you. good luck and keep an open mind.