Ok...so I need some advice/help...?

My boyfriend and I have had sex twice so far. Honestly, it has really hurt both times (I lost my virginity to him). Is there anything I can do to keep it from hurting next time? He said to ';put stuff up there to 'loosen it up.''; I don't know why or what I would ';put up there';, I just want us to be able to do it longer and have more enjoyable sex. Help would much appreciated.





P.S- No rude answers, please. I'm just very curious and trying to make ';our time'; better. Thank you.Ok...so I need some advice/help...?
KY Lube sold in the same place condoms are


And is available at Wal Marts or any drug store


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He should put it on himself before indulging


.. . ..Ok...so I need some advice/help...?
A lot of women are dry there and need extra foreplay or lube to make sex easier. I'm one of them.


There's nothing to put there to ';loosen it up'; - it's more of a dryness issue.


One way is more foreplay. Have him please you first (orgasm), then have intercourse. That worked for me.


Another way that worked for me is using lube like KY or Astroglide and add it to the foreplay by him putting it in. It adds extra lube for easier sex.
You may not be turned on enough. Try more foreplay. If it still hurts then go and buy some good Ky lubrication, if you aren't lubricated enough it will cause excess friction and hurt really bad. It may just take time to get used to. Do not just put stuff up there to loosen it up, that was horrible advice.
How close together were the two times?


of course loosing your virginity is going to hurt a little so that's expected.


when hes saying put stuff up there he mes some sort of sex toy. and that would be to loosen it up


just give it time and it wont hurt as much
it always hurts about the first 5 times it happens to everyone what he says its true if u need use something to loosen up but u dnt need to i didnt use nothing n after a couple of times it started feeling good so dnt worry ur gunna end up loving it!
He needs to be more gentle. He needs to go slower and go deeper slowly and if you say stop he absolutely must. my boyfriend and i used to have this problem but he was always very gentle when we first started so now it doesnt hurt.
take sex slow. he is probably a little to ';pushy.'; sex hurts the first few times.
the reason it hurts is because your vagina has not streched out enough to accomodate his penis girth. what he means (and i am not advocating this advice) is to put something up into your vagina to make it strech bigger prior to his insertion. that way, when he inserts, your vagina will not have to stretch as much since it will have already been stretched out a little from what you put up there. i really cant say what you could put up there because it is not the safest thing to be inserting random objects into your vagina if you can help it. i suppose you could purchase a small sex toy and try that? just make sure you wash it thoroughly so you dont get an infection.





if you continue having sex, over time your vagina will stretch out enough and it will not hurt at all. that time is different for everyone, but in the mean time just continue practicing safe sex and later it will get better. dont be pressured to try and make it the best experience soon, it takes time like every other aspect of a relationship.